It's nice to be able to learn some lessons from someone whose "been there and done that". Being 90 qualifies. Sometimes, learning lessons on our own can be painful or challenging. Hope this sets you up to avoid a few pitfalls along the way. Enjoy.
Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:”
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short ? enjoy it.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye, but don't worry, God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It's never too late to be happy. But it?s all up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'
27. Always choose life.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need
42. The best is yet to come...
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."
There's been talk forever of people, towards the end of their lives, dreaming or "seeing" people who have passed.
Todd had the experience with both his Mother and his Father, who died so recently. My Mother saw the rabbi's wife from 45 years ago when she was in her last day. When I asked her why was she seeing Mrs Livitsky, of all people, she smiled, shrugged her shoulders and said, "Because she's there."
So whether you believe or not, here's a compelling Ted Talk from someone who's been there to see what goes on many, many times. Enjoy
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Happy New Year to you all!
The Tail End By Tim Urban
As we go into the holiday season, I couldn't say it any better than one of my advisors...enjoy his thoughts below. We should be grateful for everything we have.
"As the year is winding down, I wanted to go outside the "norm" by taking a moment to discuss gratitude and how practicing it can lead to better outcomes for you and your business.
This month more than any other, I find myself reflecting over the past year by looking at ways that practicing gratitude has served me well. To me, gratitude is an action, and I have tried to apply it daily over the past year.
For me, when I practice gratitude, it is nearly impossible to get upset or stressed out. This leads to the ability to make more productive decisions!
So, gratitude is about the application of it in your life which will lead to successful outcomes.
If you apply and practice gratitude in a few simple areas of daily life, it will give you a different perspective, a "new set of glasses" per se, that allows you to be more upbeat, kind, and genuine to everyone you encounter each day. After all, more success is achieved when we genuinely and actively seek to help others succeed.
Here are three basic areas in which you can practice gratitude daily:
1) Be kind to your health/body:
This is basic stuff, but very important. Try to eat foods that will nourish your body instead of attacking it. Try to get enough sleep, and slow down if life is getting too hectic. Taking good care of your body gives you all the energy you need to deal with the demands of the day. A healthy body equals a healthy mind, and a healthy mind produces results.
2) Seek out the positive in ANY situation:
It's easy to practice gratitude when things are going well. But, how about when disappointment or unexpected occurrences strike? When this happens, because it will, ask yourself:
"What can I learn from this experience?", and "Can I apply the knowledge that I have now after going through this to help anyone else?"
After reflecting, take action! If you've learned something from a negative experience, and can help someone else with the knowledge learned from that experience, then it automatically turns the "negative" into a "positive". It's a win, win!
3) Be kind and respectful to everyone:
This can be tough. You aren't ever going to "like" everyone. You may actually strongly dislike someone. You can still practice kindness by trying to put yourself in the other's person's shoes. This brings tolerance which then allows you to be sincerely kind through respecting the other person's position. This kind of attitude breeds mutual respect which will help form a productive and working relationship geared towards success no matter if you "like" them or not!
True gratitude is much more than a state of being. It is a way of living. And, it is a seed for future prosperity.
In closing, we would like to sincerely thank you for your support and for being a friend of our agency. We appreciate your like-minded commitment to success and dedication to excellence and are looking forward to building our relationship even more in the future!"
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